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The Radical Individualist's avatar

Concerning the differences in male and female points of view, I just want to add something. Men have been blamed for pretty nearly every bad thing that ever happened, for decades, now. Who knows (well, actually, I know) how resentment might build up in the male mind at being blamed for having been born male. I think men have had more than enough of this. You will see us fighting back.

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Tara Nykyforiak's avatar

"signing up for voluntary sterilizations, which I know some women in their 20s to have done. This, on the basis that they are “certain” that they will never want children."

This idea of being "certain" ties into the abortion debate because pro-choice proponents will tout the "her body, her choice" mantra with the premise that every woman choosing to have an abortion is doing so with the certainty that they are making the right/best decision for themselves (as well as their unborn child, in the case of pregnant women in poverty, abusive households, lack of support networks, etc.).

Just as the discussion of detransitioners is stigmatized, so too is the topic of abortion regret, to the point that as a society we are failing to acknowledge it exists or dismissing the conversation when women attempt to bring it up.

I speak from the standpoint as someone with an immediate family member who had an abortion the first time she was pregnant, and who would go on to later have 2 children with her now husband who are now into their 30s. This family member, who was at that point pro-choice and had herself convinced she was certain it was the best decision (she was not in a committed relationship when she became pregnant and the guy in question walked away when informed of the pregnancy. She also did not have higher education, did not hold a stable job, and was living in an apartment with roommates at the time).

But years later after having her own children, fell into a major depression over her abortion regret, and to this day does not forgive herself for killing her unborn baby and depriving her future children of their sibling. She is now pro-life and genuinely wishes she faced more barriers when accessing abortion because it may well have stopped her from following through with it.

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