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Kelly Harbeson's avatar

I hesitate to comment upon "the incident" before more is known but one thing is evident from some of the reactions to it. The are many people in this country who have listened to the non-stop demonization of Trump for the last 8+ years and believed every word without asking themselves WHY the man is likened to Hitler or worse. Was the lawfare waged against Trump something that anyone would wish to go through themselves? Even Liberals can see the danger of a Department Of Justice and an Executive branch working hand-in-hand to subvert the protections granted us by our Constitution. The MSM sows the wind at its peril and I will not be surprised when the whirlwind blows all of it away.

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Karen Hellman's avatar

Ms. Heying-

As always- thought provoking and beautifully written. I've supported Trump from the beginning. Yes, there were and still are a lot of things I don't like about him. When do you ever have a candidate that we 100% agree with? What has always appealed to me was that he was not a candidate chosen by either party's political "elite". Sure, he ran as an R, but that was despite the R establishment not because of it.

I've a couple older (like me) good female friends. Women who are fiercely intelligent, kind, funny, generous, and an asset to my life. However, they all have often expressed an utter loathing of Trump and a low-level contempt for anyone who would vote for him. When political discussions have occurred, I've remained mostly silent, occasionally agreeing when I too disagreed with one of Trump's less than stellar actions and correcting when something was flat out wrong (Ivermectin being only for horses, Fine People, etc.). It’s odd that they’ve never picked up on the fact that I don’t join in on the” Trump is literally a threat to democracy” talk. I think it’s because they’ve convinced themselves that there is no way that someone they respect and love could be one of those “Trump” people.

Ultimately, it’s my fault. I’ve never been one to care about how a friend votes. I tend to see both sides (the good and bad) of both parties, so I understand how there are differing viewpoints. We don’t often talk about politics, so it has been easy to just glide along and remain in the closet. Yet, my silence enabled them to continue to hold the view that I’m the most generous and intelligent person they’ve known (THEIR words, not mine😉) while still uncritically painting Trump as a monster and people who vote for him as ignorant hicks. Again, my fault for not speaking up.

Well, after seeing Trump being brave enough to stand up and reassure those around him seconds after being shot, that ended. In fact, last night when one of the friends made the statement, “Trump will use this to be a martyr” I said that I think what he did showed incredible leadership and bravery. She was somewhat taken aback, and we moved on in the conversation.

A baby step for me, but an important one. Next time a conversation turns around to politics, I plan to firmly announce that I am voting for him. We’ll see what happens. I doubt I will change their minds about Trump, nor do I really think I need to try. I just need to be authentic and brave enough to be who I am. If they are truly the friends that I think they are, they’ll agree to disagree and still love me. I think they will. I hope they will. If not, what have I really lost but an illusion of friendship?

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