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Tara Nykyforiak's avatar

"While it is true that many gender-nonconforming children will turn out to be gay, there are also many gender-nonconforming children who do not turn out to be gay. I was one such child, and I am hardly alone."

Thank you Heather for taking a moment to include this bit. There is such a seemingly huge focus on the side of those pushing back against the "affirmative care" movement of children who claim to be trans, that if left alone, these kids will just grow up to be gay. But like you said, there are so many who aren't gay and simply just prefer hobbies more popular among the opposite sex.

I'm a millennial and was a tomboy growing up, and had loads of more male-dominated interests (hot wheels cars, classic rock and metal music, sports, hated dresses, action movies, most of my friends were guys, I took wood shop in HS). As a preteen and teenager I wore mostly sweatpants and hoodies to hide my body so I wouldn't get any attention from guys (didn't help that I started going through puberty on the younger side), and once overheard my dad asking my mom if I'd mentioned anything to her about maybe being a lesbian.

But fast forward and I'm married with 2 kids and the majority of my hobbies are still more masculine with the odd more feminine interest as well like cross stitching. I wish we could reclaim the tomboy label so that girls who aren't interested in stereotypically femnine things aren't automatically assumed to be either trans or lesbian.

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Jim Marlowe's avatar

Without ignoring the central message, the biology is fascinating.

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